Explaining Women in Quran

by Saif min Suyufillah

Houris in Quran:

First of all,is the word maiden a correct translation?No.

See.

Hur word is used and many other derivatives of this triliteral word are also used in Quran.

Hawariyyun and hawariyyeen (3:52, 5:111, 5:112, 61:14)means the Disciples of Prophet Jesus a.s.,true and really faithful companions.(These were males)

Yuhawiruhu (18:34 and 18:37) talking to a friend or companion.(He was a male companion)

So Hur simply and logically means a companion,true and faithful,with whom one would be very close and would have chat.

This is simply a Hur and according to the words used in Quran,there is no such discrimination that it is specific for females only,rather it is mostly used for males.

Now the specific verses about Hur.

Indeed, the righteous will be in a secure place;     (Both males and females)

Within gardens and springs,   (Both males and females)

Wearing [garments of] fine silk and brocade, facing each other. (Both males and females)

Thus. And We will marry them to fair Hur with large, [beautiful] eyes.  (??? Why should be specify these verses for males alone?Both would get fair companions)

They will call therein for every [kind of] fruit – safe and secure.  (Both males and females)

(44:51-55)

It is specified that people of Paradise would be “married” To Hur,so they would not only be the Hur ,just the companions,true and faithful,but also the married spouses.

The derivatives of the word are used mostly for the male companions,but there is nothing specified in the Holy Quran that ONLY the pious males would get Hur or ONLY the pious females would be married to Hur ,rather it is clear that everyone who is pious would be married to Hur.

Same is the reply for 

Did Allah forget the wives?

Pure companions:

Critic:Although women may well read this as good news for themselves, in the overall context of the Qur’an which will emerge later in this article, it seems more likely intended to be good news to the men, because women who do not have menstrual bleeding anymore will always be available for sex, i.e. women will loose their only valid excuse to refuse their husband’s demand for intercourse. Moreover, it is not even so clear whether these pure companions promised to the believers in 2:25, 3:15, and 4:57 are actually their earthly wives (in ‘purified form’) or whether they are not rather a reference to the houris that will be given to the male Muslim who enter paradise.

Response:

Again,when gender is not specified,it is about both,the husbands and wives as well.Both would be purified for each other and would remain clean.

The married spouses could be Hur or the worldly spouses as well who had reached paradise.

The words are not for wives only,husbands would be clean as well,there would be no micturition,no defecation and no impurity at all from any side.Now it depends upon your mentality how you take the verse or specify it only according to your dirty mind.

Comparison to garden:

Down on earth things are quite different but not much better in many ways. Men’s wives are compared to a garden, their tillage, “so come unto your tillage as you wish.” (Sura 2:223)

Response:

Verse 2:223.I find it a really comprehensive verse,but again,it is the matter of your IQ and mentality.

In a garden,you find fragrances and comfort.

You have to be very careful about the delicate flowers and plants.

You sow the seeds,and the seeds get implanted thereby turning into little plants and then trees.For the whole time you have to take care of the little plant and the garden as well.

You have to protect the garden from all possible evils.

That is same for your wife.

You may come from where ever you want,definitely it does not mean to ruin the garden.It means you can access all the possible allowed ways but for sure,you have to look after your garden and protect it from every possible damage.

Men are degree above the women:

The reason is mentioned in the same verse as they have given the responsibility of finance.4:34

The parents are also many degrees above their children as they have many responsibilities so does it mean that the children are insulted?No.

Women are asked to cover them,men are not:

Verse 24:30-31

First of all,the males are not unleashed totally,the instructions start from males that they should protect their vision and private parts and then there are instructions for the females.

Secondly if you are asked to keep your jewellery covered,while there are no similar precautions for you,it does not mean that the jewellery is degraded and your status is uplifted.Rather it means the jewellery is more precious so it should be covered and kept safely.

Created for you:

It is for both of them,husbands are created for wives and wives for husbands.Verse30:20

Two witnesses:

Verse 2:282

Two testimonies of females would be equal to that of one male,only in matters of finance.

The testimonies of both genders are equal in marital matters,in case of observing shahadah (for embracing Islam),for pointing out any mistake of the ruler (refer to the case of fixation of mehr by Companion Umer r.a. and a single woman correcting the ruler) etc etc

Is it about fearing the wombs as well?No:

Verse 4:1

O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask  (about each other), and  (you ask about )the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer (4:1)

Read the verse again.Fear is for Allah alone.

You ask is related to the rights and duties of mates,i.e. the first part of verse.

Wombs is related to second part of the verse i.e. those dispersed from the two mates.

It is never asked to fear the wombs.

The punishments of adulterer and adulteress:

Verses 4:15 and 24:2-3

The instructions in Chapter 4 are abrogated by those in Chapter 24 as it was revealed later on.

Men should purify themselves when they have contacted the women:

Verse 5:6

Males usually get the thin watery discharge at first when they get stimulated,which is not semen.They have to perform ablution for that and cleanse the dress.

Females usually get less stimulated than males ,and they need more time to be stimulated so that is why this verse is mainly addressed to the males though the teachings would be definitely applied to both.

Women appear to be the natural object of sex:

In three passages recalling the story of Lot in the Old Testament, the charge is made that a great indecency was committed: “See, you approach men lustfully instead of women.” (Sura 7:81, 27:55 and 29:29)

Response:

If males are asked to approach females for sex,I am sure it is all according to nature.How does it mean that this makes females an object of sex?

Verse 23:5

Coveting other women than one’s wives and what “one’s right hand owns” is to become a transgressor. Men are to guard “their private parts save from their wives.” (Sura 23:5)

Response:

This is not an appropriate translation.See the actual one.

And they who guard their private parts

Except with those joined to them in the marriage bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess,- for (in their case) they are free from blame (23:5-6)

Azwaaj means spouses or the husbands for the wives or the wives for the husbands.

Verse 24:33

Verse 26:171:

Old woman,because despite her postmenopausal state and the natural decrease in libido,she was involved in unnatural sex.

Verse 33:30:

It seems strange that Allah would command this regarding women’s transgressions but not for the prophet himself. The wife of the prophet would also find double reward for her obedience, one measure for her faith, and the other measure for her obedient behavior to Muhammad.

Response:

There is greater strictness mentioned for Our Holy Beloved Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w.

And if Muhammad had made up about Us some [false] sayings,

We would have seized him by the right hand;

Then We would have cut from him the aorta. 

And there is no one of you who could prevent [Us] from him.

And indeed, the Qur’an is a reminder for the righteous.(69:44-48)

Verse 33:50:

Special privileges?Each and every marriage was under Gods command and justified fully.After one verse these privileges are cancelled too.

Not lawful to you, [O Muhammad], are [any additional] women after [this], nor [is it] for you to exchange them for [other] wives, even if their beauty were to please you, except what your right hand possesses. And ever is Allah , over all things, an Observer.(33:52)

Verse 2:228:

Divorce appears to be fairly easy in the Qur’an, but there are guidelines for it. If a man has not touched his wife (sexually) there is little involved in divorcing her especially if no dowry has been established. Sura 2:228 indicates that if divorce is made, the woman should wait by herself without sexual relations for three of her periods to indicate that there is nothing in her womb. Following this time the husband could restore her. But at any event he can divorce her only twice. The paragraph on this appears ambiguous about the finality of the divorce. It says, “If he divorces her finally, she shall not be lawful to him after that, until she marries another husband. If he divorces her, then it is no fault in them to return to each other, if they suppose that they will maintain God’s bounds.” (2:230)

Response:

It is clear that husband has the chance to restore only after 2 divorces,not three.

Divorce is twice. Then, either keep [her] in an acceptable manner or release [her] with good treatment. And it is not lawful for you to take anything of what you have given them unless both fear that they will not be able to keep [within] the limits of Allah . But if you fear that they will not keep [within] the limits of Allah , then there is no blame upon either of them concerning that by which she ransoms herself. These are the limits of Allah , so do not transgress them. And whoever transgresses the limits of Allah – it is those who are the wrongdoers.(2:229)

Verse 65:6:

In Sura 65:1 Muhammad is told to count the period of the women to be divorced. They are not to be put out until the time has expired. If a woman is pregnant, she is not to be put out until she delivers and in some case agreement is made for nursing. But if there is a problem between them, then another woman may be secured for suckling the child. The obvious implication is that the child belongs to the man, not the woman.

Response:

Let the women live (in ‘iddat) in the same style as ye live, according to your means: Annoy them not, so as to restrict them. And if they carry (life in their wombs), then spend (your substance) on them until they deliver their burden: and if they suckle your (offspring), give them their recompense: and take mutual counsel together, according to what is just and reasonable. And if ye find yourselves in difficulties, let another woman suckle (the child) on the (father’s) behalf.(65:6)

Why do not you see that the father has to pay in both cases?And he could not even force the mother to breastfeed the child?

Critic:

The Qur’an does not give the traditional formula for divorce, i.e., I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you

Response:

To make sure that divorce is not a game or a matter of some seconds or minutes.It should be taken seriously.

Verse 34:50:

Muhammad defended himself at one point against his opponents by declaring what Allah told him to say, “If I go astray, I go astray only to my own loss; if I am guided, it is by what my Lord reveals to me.” (34:50) There is a more serious issue here than Muhammad admits. If he went astray he has led astray countless generations. To him goes the authority of what marriage is like in Muslim cultures, as well as divorce.

Response:

The Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w. could not get longer with all that as mentioned at other place:

And if Muhammad had made up about Us some [false] sayings,

We would have seized him by the right hand;

Then We would have cut from him the aorta. 

And there is no one of you who could prevent [Us] from him.

And indeed, the Qur’an is a reminder for the righteous.(69:44-48)

Polygamy:

Most westerns are curious about the matter of polygamy. Muslim writers tend to defend polygamy on the following lines. First, war has devastated the male population and there are more women then men. Second, argument is made that the western pattern of monogamy has failed because of many divorces, affairs, and permissiveness. Third, polygamy has been the custom in all ages and this proves to the Muslim “that it is natural to man.Fourth, “If a wife, owing to biological factors, is unable to give birth to a child, or satisfy her husband’s sexual urges, the man may safely opt for polygamy.” This saves the first wife from divorce and from being “homeless and shelter-less.”

The author states, “The basic aim of the married life is the satisfaction of the sexual desire within the bounds of legality….The man is always sexually active provided he is healthy and normal, while even a perfectly healthy woman is not always inclined to sex.The menstrual course keeps her from being able to engage in sexual relations. Fifth, normal sexual attraction requires the possibility of polygamy. “Is it not natural that a person having one wife may be attracted towards another woman so much so that this attraction may demand fulfillment?” One may well ask how it is possible to be attracted to a woman who is all covered up. Since you are not supposed to see the woman, and she is not supposed to talk to men other than her family, how is one supposed to learn to know a woman?

Should one ask about the opposite situation, many husbands, and one wife, the answer is that nature does not allow 28 days of sex a month. Moreover, the “primary aim behind espousing a woman is to impregnate her.

Polygamy is defended on the grounds that a woman can object to a second wife. This can be the grounds of divorcing him. But it is claimed that “no home has been destroyed by polygamy.

In summary, one can see the discrepancy of equality in the matter of faith before Allah, and the inequality in this world of men. The article on polygamy is written from a very male point of view. The woman is regarded as a womb and the function of a woman is to have sex. If she cannot, she must face the prospect of a competitor in marriage in a second or third wife. While polygamy may be the story of sinful man, we must observe the model of creation–God made only man and woman, not Adam and four wives.

Response:

Whatever are the reasons and justifications,remember,

1.Polygamy is allowed,it is not an obligation or something demanded or encouraged.

2.There are conditions such as:

-Equality

-No trial for the first wife.