The misconceptions about the Status of Women in Islam and their Refutations
by Saif min Suyufillah
There are many verses and ahadees which are WRONGLY propagated to disrupt the image of Islam,specially regarding women.Following are some topics usually questioned by many Non Muslims and thus they are discussed as well as clarified here.
a.Quran commands to beat Women
b.Prophet Lot a.s. and His wife
c.Forcing for marriage
e.Most of the inhabitants of hell would be females.
f.Women Short of faith and intelligence
g.Inheritance half of a male.
h.Men are superior to women
i.Halalah by men
l.The status of wife as a slave?
m.Comparision to dog and donkey
o.Resemblence to a rib
p.Women are harmful to Men
q.Jobs for females
r.Punishment of rapist
s.Islam and misogyny.
t.Islam and pedophilia
u.Minimum age for marriage
a.The Qur’an Commands Men To Beat Women
Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them.Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand.(4:34)
The wives should be guarding themselves in their husbands absence and everyone knows what does it mean.Now when a husband fears about his wife’s arrogance regarding this matter i.e if the wife is NOT guarding herself in his absence,then he has to advise her,separate her from the bed and it is also lawful for him to strike her.
I have a question i.e if anyone of you finds his wife cheating him,what would he do?
Following is the list of ahadees discouraging to beat the wives.
Ahadees forbidding beating wives:
Abu Dawud, Book 11, Number 2138:
Narrated Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah:
I said: Apostle of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her.
Abu Dawud, Book 11, Number 2137:
Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri:
Mu’awiyah asked: Apostle of Allah, what is the right of the wife of one of us over him? He replied: That you should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you clothe yourself, do not strike her on the face, do not revile her or separate yourself from her except in the house.
Abu Dawud, Book 11, Number 2139:
Narrated Mu’awiyah al-Qushayri:
I went to the Apostle of Allah and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them.
Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 68:
Narrated ‘Abdullah bin Zam’a:
The Prophet forbade laughing at a person who passes wind, and said, “How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats the stallion camel and then he may embrace (sleep with) her?”
Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 132:
Narrated ‘Abdullah bin Zam’a:
The Prophet said, “None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3895) and Ibn Majaah (1977),
“The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.
Abu Dawud, Book 11, Number 2141:
Narrated Abdullah ibn AbuDhubab:
Iyas ibn Abdullah ibn AbuDhubab reported the Apostle of Allah as saying: “Do not beat Allah’s handmaidens”, but when Umar came to the Apostle of Allah and said: Women have become emboldened towards their husbands, he (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them. Then many women came round the family of the Apostle of Allah complaining against their husbands. So the Apostle of Allah said: Many women have gone round Muhammad’s family complaining against their husbands. They (the men) are not the best among you.
At last,it was forbidden at all unless for a case of clear indecency.
It was narrated that: Sulaiman bin Amr bin Ahwas said: “My father told me that he was present on the Farewell pilgrimage with the Messenger of Allah. He praised and glorified Allah, and reminder and exhorted (the people). Then he said: ‘I enjoin good treatment of women, for they are prisoners with you, and you have no right to treat them otherwise, unless they commit clear indecency.(Clearly involved in adultery,fornication,homosexuality etc etc) If they do that, then forsake them in their beds and hit them, but without causing injury or leaving a mark if they obey you, then do not seek means of annoyance against them. You have rights over your women and your women have rights over you. Your rights over your women are that they are not to allow anyone whom you dislike on treat on your bedding (furniture), not allow anyone whom you dislike to enter your houses. And their right over you are that should treat them kindly with regard to their clothing and food. (Sahih Hadiith) Ibn Majah 3:9:1851
The Story of Job and his Wife in the Qur’an
And take in your hand a bundle of thin grass and strike therewith (your wife), and break not your oath.(38:44)
Tafseer Ibn e Katheer:
Ayyub, peace be upon him, got angry with his wife and was upset about something she had done, so he swore an oath that if Allah healed him, he would strike her with one hundred blows. When Allah healed him, how could her service, mercy, compassion and kindness be repaid with a beating So Allah showed him a way out, which was to take a bundle of thin grass, with one hundred stems, and hit her with it once. Thus he fulfilled his oath and avoided breaking his vow. This was the solution and way out for one who had Taqwa of Allah and turned to Him in repentance.
Forcing the virgin to marry:
“Do not inherit women against their will” (4:19)
“Khansa bint Khidhan who had a previous marriage, related that when her father married her and she disapproved of that, she went to the Messenger of God and he revoked her marriage.” (Bukhari, Ibn Majah)
Narrated Khansa’ bint Khidam Al-Ansariya: That her father gave her in marriage when she was a matron and she disliked that marriage. So she came and (complained) to the Prophets and he declared that marriage invalid. (See Hadith No. 69, Vol. 7) (Book #85, Hadith #78)
“A [girl who was not married] came to the Messenger of God and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet allowed her to exercise her choice.” (Abu Da’ud, on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas)
“The wife of Thabit bin Qays came to the Prophet and said, “Messenger of God, I do not reproach Thabit bin Qays in respect of character or religion but I do not want to be guilty of kufran regarding Islam (meaning that she did not like him enough as a marriage partner and so was afraid she might not give him the respect and love due to a husband).” God’s Messenger asked her if she would give back to Thabit his garden, and when she replied that she would, he told him to accept the garden and declare the divorce.” (Bukhari, Nasa’i, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah and Bayhaqi, on the authority of Ibn Abbas)
The Temporary Contractual Marriage
What a disgraceful and degrading thing a temporary, contractual marriage is for a woman!
Also (prohibited are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess: Thus hath Allah ordained (Prohibitions) against you: Except for these, all others are lawful, provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your property,- desiring chastity, not lust, seeing that ye derive benefit from them, give them their dowers (at least) as prescribed; but if, after a dower is prescribed, agree Mutually (to vary it), there is no blame on you, and Allah is All-knowing, All-wise.(4:24)
“Sahih Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 86, Number 91:
…Ali said, “Allah’s Apostle forbade the Mutah marriage on the Day of the Battle of Khaybar and he forbade the eating of donkey’s meat.” Some people said, “If one, by a tricky way, marries temporarily, his marriage is illegal.” Others said, “The marriage is valid but its condition is illegal.”
Volume 5, Book 59, Number 527:
Narrated ‘Ali bin Abi Talib:
On the day of Khaibar, Allah’s Apostle forbade the Mut’a (i.e. temporary marriage) and the eating of donkey-meat.
Sahih Bukhari Volume 9, Book 86, Number 91:
Narrated Muhammad bin ‘Ali:
‘Ali was told that Ibn ’Abbas did not see any harm in the Mut’a marriage. ‘Ali said,
“Allah’s Apostle forbade the Mut’a marriage on the Day of the battle of Khaibar and he forbade the eating of donkey’s meat.” Some people said, “If one, by a tricky way,marries temporarily, his marriage is illegal.” Others said, “The marriage is valid but its condition is illegal.”
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3259:
Rabi’ b. Sabra reported on the authority of his father that Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) prohibited the contracting of temporary marriage.
Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3260:
Rabi’ b. Sabra reported on the authority of his father that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) forbade on the Day of Victory to contract temporary marriage with women. This hadith has been narrated on the authority of Rabi’ b. Sabra that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) forbade to contracf temporary marriage with women at the time of Victory, and that his father had contracted the marriage for two red cloaks.
Book 021, Number 4763:
‘Ali b. Abi Talib reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) forbade on the Day of Khaibar temporary marriage (Muta’) with women and the eating of the flesh of domestic asses.
Book 008, Number 3262:
Sabra al-Juhanni reported on the authority of his father: Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) prohibited the contracting of temporary marriage and said: Behold, it is forbidden from this very day of yours to the Day of Resurrection, and he who has given something (as a dower) should not take it back.
Book 008, Number 3263:
‘Ali b. AbiTalib reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) prohibited on the Day of Khaibar the contracting of temporary marriage with women and the eating of the flesh of domestic asses.
Book 008, Number 3264:
Malik narrated this hadith on the authority of the same chain of trans- witters that ‘Ali ibne Talib said to a person: You are a person led astray; Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) forbade us (to do Mut’a), as is stated In the hadith transmitted on the authority of Yahya b. Malik.
Book 008, Number 3265:
Muhammad b. ‘Ali narrated on the authority of his father ‘Ali that Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) on the Day of Khaibar prohibited for ever the contracting of temporary marriage and eating of the flesh of the domestic asses.
Book 008, Number 3266:
‘Ali (Allah be pleased with him) heard that Ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with them) gave some relaxation in connection with the contracting of temporary marriage, whereupon he said: Don’t be hasty (in your religious verdict), Ibn ’Abbas, for Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) on the Day of Khaibar prohibited for ever the doing of it-And eating of the flesh of domestic asses.
Book 008, Number 3267:
‘Ali (Allah be pleased with him) said to Ibn ’Abbas (Allah be pleased with them) that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) on the Day of Khaibar forbade forever the contracting of temporary marriage and the eating of the flesh of domestic asses.
Fire In Hell—Most Of Its Inhabitants Are Women
Kuwait is a Muslim country but the number of Muslims would be lesser than that of India
And the reason is simply that the population of India is More.
Same is here,the women are more in number than the man,and thus the more would be the inhabitants of Fire.
See the sex ratio:
The countries shaded in red have more females than the males.
Male to female ratio is lesser in most of the countries,the population of females is usually much more than that of males,and so it should be reasonable that the females would be more in hell too.
“Women Are Short Of Faith And Intelligence”
1.The word used in hadees is DEFICIENCY IN INTELLIGENCE,it is never about the ABSENCE of intelligence.
2.The ARABIC word is AQL which means intelligence/intellect/reasoning.
3.There are different TYPES of intelligence.
Nine recognized types and one is LOGICAL INTELLIGENCE OR MATHEMATICAL INTELLIGENCE.(intellect,reasoning,mathematics) the type of intelligence which is really deficient in females)
In the hadees,it is told that females have less logical intelligence than males and it is a fact.
1. Men tend to be better at numbers and women tend to trump language and communication.
2. Men traditionally dominated fields of math, science, and engineering yet that imbalance is changing.
3. Women hold the lion’s share of higher education degrees since 1982, yet women do less well on standardized tests used for college entrance and graduate school requirements. The best universities are attracting more men to fill their enrollment gaps.
4. Hormones play a larger part in cognitive operations than once realized. Research, for example, shows that when people change their genders, their cognitive patterns also change.
5. Women often outperform men on tasks that use language processing, and draw on more symmetric activation across brain hemispheres.
6. Men often outperform women in tasks that call upon activation of the visual cortex areas.
7. Research shows, through brain imaging, that even when men and women perform the same tasks equally well, they draw on different parts of the brain to do so.
Cautious ,sensible man can be led astray by you means the females have good INTERPERSONAL and LINGUISTIC types of intelligence,at the same time.
A Female Inherits Only Half Of A Male’s Portion
The whole half is that of her alone, she has NO responsibility of her family,she has no responsibility of her parents or children or husband or her siblings etc etc.When she receives 1 million dollars,the whole amount belongs to her ALONE,but when a man receives 2 million dollars in inheritance,he has the responsibility of his whole family,he has to look after his parents,his children,his wife,his siblings and the financially weaker relatives.
Men Excel Women—They Are Better Than Women or superior to them
If I say that The parents excel their children because they take care of their children or they support them financially,IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT THE CHILDREN ARE INSULTED.
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband’s property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great(4:34)
The one who is made responsible assumes the higher position than the one whose responsibility is given but it does not mean that the one whose responsibility is given is insulted.
Halalah:The Muhallil—Men Who Make Lawful
Just consider a female who makes a man lawful for marriage when he had been divorced?The female who marries a divorced man to make him lawful for his previous wife?Does it sound reasonable.
If the critic has objection regarding this law,then he should understand that such a type of law is to check the rate of divorce.The couple should not take it so easy to separate and then wed again.Divorce should NOT be that common in the society and thus it is to check and balance the rate of divorce.
Polygamy is allowed but it is NOT necessary,it is NOT obligatory upon every male.Polygamy is conditioned i.e
1.If the person is willing to be just towards all of his wives,otherwise there are serious punishments.
2.Provided that the marriage would not turn to be stressful for the first wife,it would not become a trial for her as Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w. had forbidden his one son in law for that reason.
‘Ali b. Husain reported that Miswar b. Makhramah informed him that ‘Ali b. Abi Talib sent the proposal of marriage to the daughter of Abu Jahl as he had Fatima, the daughter of Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ), (as his wife). When Fatima heard about it, she came to Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ) and said:
The people say that you never feel angry on account of your daughters and now ‘Ali is going to marry the daughter of Abu Jahl. Makhramah said: Thereupon Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) rose up and I heard him reciting Tashahhud and say: Now to the point. I gave a daughter of mine (Zainab) to Abu’l-‘As b. Rabi, and he spoke to me and spoke the truth. Verily Fatima, the daughter of Muhammad, is a part of me and I do not approve that she may be put to any trial and by Allah, the daughter of Allah’s Messenger cannot be combined with the daughter of God’s enemy (as the co-wives) of one person. Thereupon ‘Ali gave up (the idea of his intended) marriage.(Sahih Muslim 44:140)
Easiness of divorce:
Divorce (Talaq) In Quran And Islam – Hadith On Divorce (Talaq)
After marriage both male and female life partners have almost equal opportunities to get divorce if they don’t want to live together. However it should be noted that as per our beloved prophet (peace be upon him):
Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than Divorce. Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is Divorce.(Sunan Abu dawud: Book #12, Hadith #2172-2173)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Divorce By Bilateral Agreement.
If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; …– Surah 4 Verse 128
The first type is by unilateral… by unilateral agreement, between the husband and wife – Both may say… ‘Okay, we are not compatible… let us part’.
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Divorce On Husband’s Will2.
The second type, is by the unilateral will of the husband, that is called a ‘Talaq’, in which, he has to forgo his ‘Meher’. If he has not paid it, he has to pay it to her… and including the gifts, he has given to her.
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Divorce On Wife’s Will3.
Third type, is by the unilateral will of the wife – I repeat, by the unilateral will of the wife… if she mentions it in her marriage contract. If she mentions it in her Nikah-Nama… in her marriage contract, that she has the right to give unilateral divorce, she can give it – It is call as ‘Isma’. I have never heard of anyone speaking of an ‘Isma’ – It is called as ‘Isma’ – Even a woman can give divorce, ‘Isma’.
If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; …- Surah 4 Verse 128
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Divorce As Tansikh e Nikah:
Fourth category is, if the husband ill-treats her, or not give her equal rights, she has the right to go to a court for divorce, and nullify the marriage – It is called as ‘Nikah-e-Fask’. In this, according to the Kazi, he may ask the husband to give the full ‘Meher’, or part of the ‘Meher’, depending upon the Kazi.
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Divorce As Khulah.
And the last is ‘Khulah’- that even though the husband may be a very good husband, the wife has got no complaints against the husband, but for personal reasons, she does not like the husband – she can request the husband, to divorce her – and that is called as ‘Khulah’.But very few people talk about women giving divorce, to the men. Some of the Ulemas have categorized these 5 types of divorce, into 2 or 3 different categories, but broadly there are 5 types of divorce, in Islam. Hope that answers the question.
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 1 On Divorce (Talaq)
And divorced women shall wait (as regards their marriage) for three menstrual periods, and it is not lawful for them to conceal what Allah has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (Al-Baqara-228)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 2 On Divorce (Talaq)
The divorce is twice, after that, either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness. And it is not lawful for you (men) to take back (from your wives) any of your Mahr (bridal – money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) which you have given them, except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah (e.g. to deal with each other on a fair basis). Then if you fear that they would not be able to keep the limits ordained by Allah, then there is no sin on either of them if she gives back (the Mahr or a part of it) for her Al-Khul’ (divorce). These are the limits ordained by Allah, so do not transgress them. And whoever transgresses the limits ordained by Allah, and then such are the Zâlimûn (wrong-doers). (Al-Baqara-229)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 3 On Divorce (Talaq)
And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband. Then, if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin on both of them that they reunite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. These are the limits of Allâh, which He makes plain for the people who have knowledge. (Al-Baqara- 230)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 4 On Divorce (Talaq)
And those of you who die and leave wives behind them, they (the wives) shall wait (as regards their marriage) for four months and ten days, then when they have fulfilled their term, there is no sin on you if they (the wives) dispose of themselves in a just and honorable manner (i.e. they can marry). And Allah is Well-Acquainted with what you do (Al-Baqara-234)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 5 On Divorce (Talaq)
O you who believe! When you marry believing women, and then divorce them before you have sexual intercourse with them, no iddah (divorce prescribed period) have you to count in respect of them. So give them a present, and set them free (i.e. divorce), in a handsome manner. (Al-Ahzab-49)
On the basis of above verses, Islamic scholars have compiled following valid points On Divorce (Talaq) In Islam
1. Husband can give maximum three divorces to his wife.
2. After one or two divorces, he has right to take back his divorcee within iddah period and after iddah period he can re-marry with her.
3. If three divorces have been given, husband has no right to take back his divorcee.
4. After three divorces, husband can not re-marry with her divorcee till she marries with another person and get divorce from that person. This is called halalah in Islamic shariyat.
5. Iddah of a divorcee woman is three menstrual periods. Only after this period, she can marry to any one else.
6. No iddah period is required if woman is divorced before sexual intercourse.
7. Iddah of a widow woman is four lunar months and ten days.
8. Iddah of a pregnant widow or divorce woman is the period till she delivered the child.Let’s recite some more verses from Quran about Divorce given in soorah talaq.
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 6 On Divorce (Talaq)
O Prophet (SAW)! When you divorce women, divorce them at their ‘Iddah (prescribed periods), and count (accurately) their ‘Iddah (periods). And fear Allâh your Lord (O Muslims), and turn them not out of their (husband’s) homes, nor shall they (themselves) leave, except in case they are guilty of some open illegal sexual intercourse. And those are the set limits of Allâh. And whosoever transgresses the set limits of Allâh, and then indeed he has wronged himself. You (the one who divorces his wife) know not, it may be that Allâh will afterward bring some new thing to pass (i.e. to return her back to you if that was the first or second divorce). (talaq-1)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 7 On Divorce (Talaq)
Then when they are about to attain their term appointed, either take them back in a good manner or part with them in a good manner. And take as witness two just persons from among you (Muslims). And establish the testimony for Allâh. That will be an admonition given to him who believes in Allâh and the Last Day. And whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). (2) And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allâh will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allâh has set a measure for all things. (3)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 8 On Divorce (Talaq)
And those of your women as have passed the age of monthly courses, for them the ‘Iddah (prescribed periods), if you have doubt (about their period), is three months, and for those who have no courses (i.e. they are still immature) their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is three months likewise, except in case of death . And for those who are pregnant (whether they are divorced or their husbands are dead), their ‘Iddah (prescribed period) is until they laydown their burden, and whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make his matter easy for him. (Talaq-4) That is the Command of Allâh, which He has sent down to you, and whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will expiate from him his sins, and will enlarge his reward. (Talaq-5)
Divorce (Talaq) In Islam – Quranic Verse 9 On Divorce (Talaq)
Lodge them (the divorced women) where you dwell, according to your means, and do not harm them so as to straiten them (that they be obliged to leave your house). And if they are pregnant, then spend on them till they lay down their burden. Then if they give suck to the children for you, give them their due payment, and let each of you accept the advice of the other in a just way. But if you make difficulties for one another, then some other woman may give suck for him (the father of the child). (6) Let the rich man spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allâh has given him. Allâh puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him. Allâh will grant after hardship, ease. (Talaq-7)
Instructions On Divorce (Talaq) In Islam As Per Above Verses:
1. Do not divorce a woman during her menstrual periods. Divorce should only be given in her that neat and clean period in which sexual intercourse is not done. Woman can be divorced if she is pregnant. It should be noted that divorce will be still valid if it is granted against these quranic instructions. However they will be considered as sinful.
2. After having divorce, woman should stay to her husband’s home till the end of iddah i.e. three menstrual periods. She should not leave her husband’s home nor should her husband force her to leave home.
3. While divorcing a woman, man should witnessed two persons. Please note that witnessing is better for both parties. Otherwise divorce will be legally valid without witness too.
4. Iddah period of old women is three lunar months if she is no more menstruating.
5. Iddah period of a minor or underage girl is also three lunar months if she has not yet started menstruating. Quran here not only allows marrying with such minor girl but also allows sexual intercourse with underage wife. Because there is no iddah period of untouched divorced wife as mentioned surah Al-Ahzab-49.
6. During iddah period, husband is responsible to bear expenses of his divorced wife.
7. If divorced wife is pregnant, the man is responsible to bear all her expense till delivery and expense of his child after birth as well.
Divorce in Islam is made very easy. By uttering the phrase, “You are divorced,” the divorce takes place.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3292 Narrated by Mahmud ibn Labid
When Allah’s Messenger (saws) was informed about a man who had divorced his wife,declaring it three times without any interval between them, He (saws) arose in anger and said, “Is a mockery being made of the Book of Allah Who is Great and Glorious, while I am amongst you?” As a result a companion got up and asked, “O Messenger of Allah (saws) shall I kill him?”
Most probably the man felt bored with that wife or he lusted after another woman who was younger and more beautiful.Since he was not able to support two women at the same time, he divorced one to marry the other.It is that easy for a man to divorce his wife if he wishes, even if she does not commit any wrongdoing. This often happens in Arab and Islamic countries without any regard to the woman’s dignity.
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2173 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Umar
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Of all the lawful acts’ the most detestable to Allah is divorce.’
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2172 Narrated by Muharib
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘Allah did not make anything lawful more abominable to Him than divorce.‘
Regarding woman’s dignity,she has the right to opt for divorce.The divorce could be purely demanded by her will,or by the mutual consent of the couple.
If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part, there is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between themselves; …Surah 4 Verse 128
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A Woman is the Husband’s Slave His Captive!
The non muslims are unable to provide a single verse or hadees regarding it.
“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise” [al-Baqarah 2:228)Do you note the word similar rights?Do the rights of master over his slave and the slave over his master are same.NO.But the rights of husbands and wives are similar upon them except that the husbands are granted the financial responsibility too.In the Holy Qur’an, Allah (SWT) points to marital bond as one of His signs and says,“Among His signs is that He has created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” (30:21).The husbands and wives dwell in tranquility with each other on an equal basis,the love is there in between them and there is mercy too.It is not like that a husband has to be merciful towards his wife,Nobody could ever suspect a master and slave type of relation from this verse.The verse mentioned above states the great purpose of marriage i.e. tranquility and it clearly cancels out any type of mastery or slavery of anyone in the couple.In Surah Baqarah (2:187) it is mentioned that “they (wives) are your garments and you are their garments”. The garment is for peace and security. Abdullah Yousuf Ali comments on this verse “Men and women are each other’s garments i.e. they are for mutual support, mutual comfort and mutual protection, filling into each other as a garment fits the body. A garment is also both for show and concealment.”The last sermon and The teachings of Our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w. regarding wives:O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women,but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.
A dog and a donkey:
Abd Allah ibn al-Samit said:Abu Dharr said: Allah’s Messenger — Allah bless and salute him! — said:
“When one of you stands in prayer, what definitely constitutes a barrier for him is an object placed in front of him of the same height as the back of a camel-saddle. If it is not in front of him and of the same height as the back of a camel-saddle, then some [stray] donkey, or some woman passing, or some black dog will cut off his prayer.”
First of all,the word qata’ which is used in the hadees is also translated as an interrupt or interruption.The prayer could be interrupted by a woman passing by..Secondly,The words of Ayesha r.a. clearly indicate that at least the behavior of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w was never wrong and that is why she defended Him s.a.w.w..Narrated ‘Aisha: Do you make us (women) equal to Dogs and donkeys? While I used to lie in my bed, the Prophet would come and pray facing the middle of the bed. I used to consider it not good to stand in front of him in his prayers. So I used to slip away slowly and quietly from the foot of the bed till I got out of my guilt. (Book #9, Hadith #486)This hadees is sufficient to clarify that the women are not compared to dogs and donkeys.
Women are the Cause of Evil Omen
Why it is not said that a bad person (in general, whether a male or female) may cause an evil omen; that is if there is such a thing as an evil omen since we do not believe in the existence of evil omen among true believers. Why is it always a woman? If a woman walks in front of a man while he prays, he has to repeat his prayer because it does not count. Since a woman has bad character, she causes an evil omen.
The correct hadees is
Narrated Sahl bin Sad: Allah’s Apostle said, “If at all there is bad omen, it is in the horse, the woman, and the house.” (Sahi Bukahri,Book #62, Hadith #32).
This is all about ‘IF’…But the fact is that there is no evil omen.‘
Abdullah b. ‘Umar reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying. There is no transitive disease, no ill omen, and bad luck is lound in the house, or wife or horse. ( Sahih Muslim,Book #026, Hadith #5524)
And women and horses were mentioned as they could be the source of evil omen just because they are beautified in the eyes of people.Anything beautified becomes the topmost priority and hence can put a person in trial.Beautified for people is the love of that which they desire – of women and sons, heaped-up sums of gold and silver, fine branded horses, and cattle and tilled land. That is the enjoyment of worldly life, but Allah has with Him the best return (3:14)
Women have Crooked Characters
Go through the hadees again.See its context carefully.
Hadith – Muslim, #3468Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Apostle as saying: He who believes in Allah and the Hereafter, if he witnesses any matter he should talk in good terms about it or keep quiet. Act kindly towards woman, for woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, its crookedness will remain there. So act kindly towards women.
The term crooked was never used to insult the women,but to let the men know that they have to behave kindly towards them in any case. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it,this implies that you even they should NOT criticize them or hurt them.
And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good (4:19)
This is similar to what discussed in the hadees.Now think about the same example of ribs,the ribs are crooked but their crookedness protects the lungs and heart!Note that it is repeated many times in the hadees as well as this verse that You should be kinds towards them.
Think about it again and again,it was NEVER meant to insult the women.
Women are Harmful to Men.
A gun could be lethal for you if you are targeted and it could be your life saving if it is used for you protection.
Abdullah ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The world is provision and the best provision in the world is a righteous woman.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 1467
Jobs for females.
Business was a legitimate activity of the women companions of the Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w.Hazrat Khadija r.a, the Prophet’s first wife, is the most famous example.Hazrat Saudah r.a., the Prophet’s wife, was an expert in tanning skins. She sold her tanned goods to trading caravans and local men throughout Medina.The wife of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ud met her expenses by manufacturing and selling handicrafts
A companion of the Prophet mentioned a woman who had her own farm. She used to cultivate beets and barley to feed the companions of the Prophet with it after Friday prayer.
The daughter of Abu Bakr, Asma’, mentioned that when she was married to Zubair, they did not have wealth. The Prophet gave them some land about two miles away from their home. She used to farm and transport the produce herself.
Regarding the feild of medincine..
Rufaidah Aslamiyyah was an expert in medicine and surgery. She used to tend to the sick and wounded in the battlefields. According to Ibn Sa’d, her tent was equipped with equipment for surgery and first aid. When Sa’d ibn Mu’adh was injured in the Battle of the Trenches, the Prophet transferred him to her tent for medical care
the prominent role was of Bibi Ayesha r.a.Others are Safiyyah, Hafsa, Umm Habiba, Juwayriyyah, Maymuna, Fatima, Zahra, Umm Sharik, Umm ‘Atya, Asma’ bint Abu Bakr, Haila bint Qanif, Khaula bint Tuwait, Umm al-Darda, Atika bint Zaid, Sahalah bint Suhail, Fatima bint Qais, Zaynabah bint Abu Salamah, Umm Ayman, and Umm Yusuf.
A noted medieval Muslim scholar, Imam Badr al-Din Kashani, explained the rationale for appointing a women Qadi judge): “Where there is ability to give testimony, there is also the ability of qada (ruling).” According to al-Tabari, a woman can be an absolute judge in every matter.
Punishment of rapist:
- The punishment of rapist is stoning him to death.
- There is NO punishment of the victim
- The testimony of 4 people is not necessary for the punishment of rapist.
“Narrated Wa’il ibn Hujr: When a woman went out in the time of the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) for prayer, a man attacked her and overpowered (raped) her. She shouted and he went off, and when a man came by, she said: That (man) did such and such to me. And when a company of the Emigrants came by, she said: That man did such and such to me. They went and seized the man whom they thought had had intercourse with her and brought him to her. She said: Yes, this is he. Then they brought him to the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him). When he (the Prophet) was about to pass sentence, the man who (actually) had assaulted her stood up and said: Apostle of Allah, I am the man who did it to her. He (the Prophet) said to her: Go away, for Allah has forgiven you. But he told the man some good words (AbuDawud said: meaning the man who was seized), and of the man who had had intercourse with her, he said: Stone him to death. He also said: He has repented to such an extent that if the people of Medina had repented similarly, it would have been accepted from them.”
(Isnad Classed Good By Abu Dawud – Source. Classed Sahih By Sheikh Albani – Source. Also Found In Tirmidhi, 1494 – Classed As Hasan Sahih By Tirmidhi, 1175 & Al-Mishkah, 3572 – cited here. Ibn Hajar Declared It Hasan In: In Takhrij Mishkah Al-Masabih, 3/422 – Source)
Islam,Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w and misogyny:
Misogyny and Islam are a Major contradiction.
Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w. was never a misogynist.
Could a misogynist set the standard of the best character by being BEST to the women?
Abu Hurayra stated, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, ‘The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character. The best of you are those who are the best to their women.’”
Could a misogynist tell that putting some food in the mouth of a wife would be rewarded?I am sure he would strongly discourage it.
Narrated Sa’d bin Abi Waqqas: Allah’s Apostle said, “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend for Allah’s sake even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife‘s mouth.” (Sahih Bukhari Book #2, Hadith #53)
Could a misogynist teach others to grant permission to the women if they ask so?No.
Narrated Salim bin ‘Abdullah: My father said, “The Prophet said, ‘If the wife of any one of you asks permission do not forbid her.” (Sahih Bukhari Book #12, Hadith #832)
Could a misogynist believe in slowly driving just for the care of women?No.
Could a misogynist mention the women as crystals?No.
Anas narrated: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was once traveling (in a caravan and women were riding the camels) and a boy named Anjashah was chanting for the camels. The Messenger of Allah said: “O Anjashah, drive the camels slowly as they are carrying “Qawareer” (Crystals).Sahih Bukhari 5745
Could ever a misogynist forbids hating women?Could he discourage it?No.
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Let not a believing man hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her attributes, he will be pleased with another.” (Narrated by Muslim from Abu Hurayrah, 1469).*
Could a misogynist assures paradise for upbringing girls?
Hadhrat Anas (Radhi Allahu anhu) narrates that the Holy Prophet (Sall Allahu alaihe wasallam) said: “Whoever maintains two girls until they attain maturity, he and l will arrive on the Day of Judgement like this; he joined his two fingers.” (Muslim)
Could a misogynist ever mention more importance to mother than the father?The person against women could not do so.
A man came to the Prophet Mohammad (sal) asking: `O Messenger of Allah, who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said, your mother. The man said then who is next: the Prophet said, your mother. The man asked again, then who is next: the Prophet said, your mother. The man asked further and only then did the Prophet say, your father. (Al Bukhari) Kindness to parents, especially to mothers, is a foundation stone in the structure of Islam.
Another important points refuting Misogyny:
Recognizing her individuality, Islam grants a woman freedom of choice and _expression. We are encouraged to contribute opinions and ideas. Women would pose questions directly to the Prophet (sal) and to other Muslim leaders and offer their opinions concerning religion, economics, and social matters. (Qur’an 58:1-4; 60:10-12)
Actually it was 1400 years ago that a right to vote was given to the woman. When the women came to Prophet Mohammad (sal) and swore their allegiance to him, he had to accept their oath. This established the right of women to publicly participate in the selection of their leader. Nor does Islam forbid a woman from holding important positions in government.
Woman according to the Quran is not blamed for Adam’s first mistake. Both were jointly wrong in their disobedience to God, both repented, and both were forgiven. [Noble Quran 2:36, 7:20-24]
O you who have believed, it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion. And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them unless they commit a clear immorality. And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.(4:19)
Islam and pedophilia:
The diagnostic criteria of pedophilia is
The ICD-10 defines pedophilia as “a sexual preference for children, boys or girls or both, usually of prepubertal or early pubertal age.”Under this system’s criteria, a person 16 years of age or older meets the definition if they have a persistent or predominant sexual preference for prepubescent children at least five years younger than them
1.No such behavior of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w. at all
2.Attaining Puberty at 9 is Normal for a gynecologist,endocrinologist,physician and a pediatrician.
Everyone who knows medicine is comfortable here because it is all normal to attain puberty after 8 years.
Before 8 years,it is known as precocious puberty which is not physiological.Learn More
Marrying a girl of 9 should not be the question,but marrying an adult or non adult could be the question and the answer is that she was an adult.
Ayesha r.a. herself mentions that a female of 9 years is a WOMAN.( adult female)
She r.a. was brought home at age of 9 i.e she waited for 3 years.It is all normal to attain puberty after the age of 8 years.
3.In case of such offenses,the psychological development and the personality of the victim are much impaired but for Ayesha r.a,
- She had good memory,she had reported about thousands of ahadees.
- She was intellectual,she had good reasoning ability,she was best in jurisprudence
- She was bold,self-confident (the battle of camel,you may judge her superb level of confidence,the degree of boldness)
- She had good decision-making power.
Now,comparing with the personality of a victim of child abuse,the personality which contradicts with that of Ayesha r.a.
- The person is not that confident and bold
- The person does not feel himself/herself LUCKY (Ayesha r.a was confident and happy about the love of her Husband for her)
- The person suffering from psychological problems,would have much difficulty in learning,reasoning and intellectual grounds.
Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad s.a.w.w had married only a single girl of such a young age,with clear hints of attained puberty by the time,and with the upbringing of Ayesha r.a. in an environment where she had excellent physiological and psychological development.
Crystal clear refutation with numerous evidences.
Minimum age for marriage (sex):
The minimum age is not mentioned anywhere but the criteria is that the two should be adults,the female should have attained puberty.
And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].(4:3)
The word used here is Nisa,which means women.
There are many words for girl but no such word is used to avoid any confusion regarding a prepubescent girl.